Sunday, October 05, 2014

Normal? No Thanks!

"Normal" is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work, driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for, in order to get to the job that you need so you can pay for the clothes, the car, and the house that you leave empty all day in order to afford to live in it," ~Ellen Goodman

As I strive to simplify and minimize my life, I can't help but wonder why we tend to blindly follow the herd to keep up appearances of being more than we are. 

Why do we feel the need to impress others with what we own, where we live, or what we drive? If that's "normal", then I don't want it!

What's better than normal? Freedom and creating the life you want. Being unafraid of the future because you can handle an emergency. You can pay your monthly obligations with ease. You have time to enjoy life rather than keeping up with the Joneses. 

It is time to get real and get focused. Figure out what makes you happiest and get busy making it a reality. 

You don't have to explain anything to anyone. Frankly, it's no one's business. You are free to do what you want with your life, as long as you are not breaking the law.

Others may see you as eccentric, but you will be the last one laughing. Soon, they will be coming to you for advice.

Be happy. Be free. Be whatever you want, but don't be normal.


FlowerLady Lorraine said...

DH and I have always been, eccentric, not normal at all. Much freer and happier that way.


CTMOM said...

An honest, and very wise post, IMO. I live in the midst of afluenza, which can be difficult. I find myself at this stage in life with no debt, beyond normal living expenses. While I currently do not own a home (and I am seriously questioning whether or not to buy in the near future), my car is paid for, I have one CC-it's paid off monthly. I wear what I call "decent" clothes to work-some are very old in age, some are second hand, some are sale finds. Everything mixes/matches. I also am finding that I like decluttering and reducing my possessions. Less really is more for me. We don't recreate at the Mall, don't go out to eat often, don't have the latest/greatest. My furnishings suit me, most are second hand, if not, they were saved up for before purchasing. I think we live well, we have a nice home. It works for us, that is all that truely matters. : )
Carol in CT

Patricia @ Corn in my Coffee-Pot said...

We live pretty simply here.
For the exception of our mortgage (and a new shed we're paying for) ...we have no debt.
We grow groceries, raise free range chickens for feed, rake hay for bedding. Compost, fish, and barter for venison, we've even had chickens that we've raised as meat chickens. I recently sold the dryer--because it sat unused for almost 8 yrs. UnPLUGGED. Wasting space.
I'm trying so hard to get over my attachment to this house. Seriously, if we sold out, we could move and buy something pretty inexpensive in town.
And have no mortgage. It would make our lifestyle much easier--
Your post rings true.
"It is time to get real and get focused. Figure out what makes you happiest and get busy making it a reality. " ...this can't be said loud enough in my head!!!!
Thanks Tracy

Terri Cheney said...

Freedom, simplicity, it all comes with being free of debt and buying meaningless things. It's important to figure out what IS important. For me it was books, music, and pretty flowers...

Fiona said...

You always have such wise and wonderful words dear Tracy, and the two quotes you have chosen are so inspirational. I love my simple life and know I wouldn't want to have it any other way.

Mrs. Miano said...

You know I am gonna speak from my Christian perspective. We aren't normal!! WOOHOO! Our freedom is that we dont have to be like the world at all...we were blood bought outta all that. Trouble is...dare I say....most of us haven't stepped into it. Not in reality. We understand it in our brains- in our spiritual thoughts...we are not of this world, we are free...Jesus bought our freedom so we can have JOY and peace and rest. Most of us if we'd really..and I mean REALLY get truthful and honest with ourselves would see that we are still following after the world in so many ways. I know I did/AM. It is so hard to break the cycle. I'd like to share a few thoughts and things I am seeing/ path has echoed your's over the past decade...a gradual calling to simplicity, minimal, less. I think there is something spiritual rippling through the Body right now...Recently my eyes have been opened to a the Bible about all the very things you speak of. and Jesus...His example, the many examples...Seriously have we all ever sat back and looked at how Jesus lived? Like the day to day stuff..."normal" life stuff.Practical stuff. The man owned almost nothing, didn't have a mortgage, bills, debts and never worried over food. I think he was the ultimate minimalist-LOL! It's hard to express what exactly I am saying....Its more of a feeling. I dont think our lives were ever intended to have this much excess. You are a slave when you are in debt and we all worry way too much over everything- food and clothes....I mean for heavens sake the Book says if you own 2 tunics- GIVE ONE AWAY- if someone steals your cloak- let them have it! None of us has one set of clothes, and we'd get pretty pissy if someone took all we had. But how freeing one is! Just one- imagine that? One can be enough....who defines enough anyway? I know the world has crept in on me tons in this area. Food- yikes. I have been wanting to really study food in the bible for years....and have partially. I think the world is unbalanced in that area also. What did they have back then...basic staples- grains, olive oil, fish, lamb and other meats, eggs, honey, milk, cheese, herbs, veggies fruit - basics...and only the rich had all those available to them all the time -modest income families, probably less variety. Any way we think we know a lot, yet sometimes I feel we know very little and have let the world- no matter how HARD we try not to- influence and pollute our thinking in more areas than we are even aware of!!! I am learning and my mind has changed on so many family has made mistakes along our path that we are working on now to correct...we really bought into the American dream and I still believe that America is a land we CAN prosper and live free in...I just have to make certain that I am pleasing the right J. NOT the Joneses. but Jesus. HE promised to meet my needs, here's an example of kinda what I am talking about- I believe shelter is one of our needs...but "I" was the one to get a big house with a BIG mortgage when now I see all that wasn't really necessary. I even secretly question if strapping my life to a 30 year sentence to own a home is even what is meant by shelter....again the world told me thats how to "do it" and I followed happily right along. We are making changes as new thoughts are birthed in us...I seem to see it in others too, and that makes me happy! I think people are waking up and taking baby steps to embrace the true freedom that is already ours....radical freedom that the world simply won't...cannot understand.